Happy All Hallows Eve, dear reader!
I've been enjoying the Halloween season by attending the scare attractions here in Britain, including Thorpe Park Fright Nights and Alton Towers Scarefest (You can head on over to my Facebook page to watch my live updates from the events). I have to admit that I'm not the bravest of people at the start of the night and was quite frankly scared out of my mind. As I loosened up, got into the atmosphere and a healthy dose of willpower, I did it! I completed the mazes and I'm so proud of myself. Actually, I got a real buzz of achievement and was able to tell everyone that I had survived. Yeah!
It got me thinking about the trick and the treat - the pain versus the pleasure.
At the start of the night I didn't want to go in the mazes at all. As time went on I managed to complete all of them - even the most extreme maze in the U.K. So, what is that all about? Well, Pleasure and pain is responsible for every decision we make. In turn, the decisions we make will lead to certain consequences - short-term pain, short-term pleasure, long-term pain and long-term pleasure. These consequences also vary in intensity too. So hypothetically, what if I dared you to walk on broken glass for £10? What would you decide? Well, you would start by weighing up the pleasure/pain consequences of doing it. The short-term pain of cut and bleeding feet wouldn't be worth the money - the pleasure of the reward. It would also connect with the long-term pain of having to heal your feet too. However, what if I dared you to walk on broken glass for £10,000,000? Has your decision changed? Now when going through the decision-making process, the intensity of the consequences shifts more to the pleasure of the reward. The short and long term pain of cut and bleeding feet and healing them seems almost bearable when mixed with the greater long-term pleasure of having the money. So, what if your goal was to lose weight? Your decision to eat a piece of chocolate cake (short-term pleasure) would directly affect achieving your goal resulting in long-term pain. Not eating the cake would cause short-term pain although the long-term pleasure would be worth the result of the achieved goal. Yes YOLO (you only live once) can be the perfect saying to allow for short-term pleasure, but at what long-term cost? Would you want to eat that chocolate cake now?
The pleasure/pain principle is the building blocks to your motivation.
To increase your motivation you have to start using pleasure and pain as an ally. You can do this by associating more short-term and long-term pleasure to achieving a goal and as much short-term and long-term pain to not achieving it. In essence, the carrot (your reward) has to be big enough to withstand the short-term pain. So dream big! For example, a musical maestro has to put more intensity of pleasure into completing daily practises and repetition of scales to achieve the goal of being the best in the world. And more intensity of pain to missing a practise, resulting in the goal not being achieved. During coaching sessions with my clients, it is vital that we work with the pleasure /pain principle in achieving their goals. As soon as my clients understand and start using this principle as a tool their lives shift gears and change dramatically.
Question: How is pleasure or pain guiding the decisions and goals in your life?
I really do hope this blog has help with your decision making process. So what will it be? Trick or treat?
I hope you have a spooktacular time this October.
Lot of ghosts and ghouls,
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